Ang Baos: how much is enough?
Nice article I read from TheAsianParent.com (Singapore Edition)
It’s that time of the year again to give and receive red packets! Commonly referred to as ‘Ang Baos’ locally, these envelopes containing money gifts are a symbol of good luck and are supposed to ward off evil spirits with their auspicious red colour. While this Chinese tradition has been around for centuries, one tricky question remains for every ang bao giver each year: How much money should be enclosed in each ang bao?
This article seeks the traditional and modern customs of ang bao gifting to provide a better idea of how much should be included in your ang baos this year.
Customary roots of the Ang Bao
The tradition of ang bao giving is carried out by married individuals and elders as a symbol of well wishing and good luck to juniors and unmarried singles. In the old days when marriage takes place at a younger age, the Chinese believe that you achieve adult status when you get married. Hence, with this newfound status comes the privilege to distribute ang baos to those who still remain single or are younger.
The monetary gift included in ang baos is largely dependent on the relation between the giver and receiver. Immediate family members are typically given the more generous ang baos, followed by close relatives, friends, distant relatives then children of less familiar acquaintances.
The Chinese generally believe that even numbers represent that things will be well rounded; hence the amount in ang baos are usually in even numbers. Odd numbers are traditionally associated with monetary offerings for funeral wakes, and should be avoided for joyous occasions such as Lunar New Year, wedding banquets and babies’ full month celebrations.
Dollar notes used in ang baos should also be fresh banknotes as it symbolises the new beginning and new wealth in the New Year. The Cantonese, in particular, believe that giving used notes signifies the receiver is unimportant and that he or she would be forgotten.
Across all dialect groups of the Chinese, parents are no longer required to give ang baos to their children who are married. Instead, these children are expected to give ang baos to their parents to thank them for the years spent on raising them and to wish them longevity.
A Melting Pot of Traditions
As a Hokkien raised by a strict Cantonese grandmother, I would (and still do) scoff at ang baos containing $4 because I was taught that it is an inauspicious number. However, being married to a Teochew man, my mother-in-law has an annual habit of giving $4 ang baos to all the children in the family. Her reasoning behind it is that ‘4′ is a good number for Teochews as it represents that everything will go smoothly (事事顺利, 事事如意) for the receiver. Traditional Teochews apparently also like to hold their weddings in April – the fourth month in a year – for the same reason.
It is for these same reasons that many Singaporeans have created their own practices regarding ang bao gifting. Being a country with many cultures, it is not uncommon to have marriages between two different dialect groups, leading to traditional practices being modified or ignored.
Firstly, peers do not commonly gift each other ang baos for the Lunar New Year even if one is married. Our society’s westernised behaviour views all peers as equals regardless of marital status, instead of married individuals being of a higher seniority.
Many parents also continue to give their married children ang baos as family units are considerably smaller compared to several generations ago. With the perpetual rise in living costs, they feel that their festive tokens would be of aid in helping their children cope with the financial commitments of having their own family.
Young families who no longer subscribe to their parents’ beliefs are also giving out ang baos containing ‘inauspicious numbers’ that would have been disapproved of a few decades ago. A quick survey on theAsianparent Facebook page showed that our readers typically give out ang baos with $2 to $10 to children, with a large majority handing out $4 or $6. While the number ‘4′ was avoided by many of our parents due to its similarity to the word ‘death’ in many dialects, the younger generation thinks of it as just a number and holds no taboo towards it.
Subjected to Economy Situation
During good economy, it was common to receive ang baos with a minimum of $6, while the years with economic recession saw ang baos reduced to just $2 each. It was a common amount and there was no judgment as most were suffering the same effects from the economic downturn.
On a similar note, it does not matter how much you give in your ang baos as long as it is what you can afford financially. True family and friends are more interested in getting together to celebrate the new lunar year than with how much is given to them in each ang bao. As long as you gift each ang bao with sincere blessings and a joyous heart, the monetary factor is just an added bonus.
Have a great Rabbit Year ahead!
Ang Baos: how much is enough?
It’s that time of the year again to give and receive red packets! Commonly referred to as ‘Ang Baos’ locally, these envelopes containing money gifts are a symbol of good luck and are supposed to ward off evil spirits with their auspicious red colour. While this Chinese tradition has been around for centuries, one tricky question remains for every ang bao giver each year: How much money should be enclosed in each ang bao?This article seeks the traditional and modern customs of ang bao gifting to provide a better idea of how much should be included in your ang baos this year.
Customary roots of the Ang Bao
The tradition of ang bao giving is carried out by married individuals and elders as a symbol of well wishing and good luck to juniors and unmarried singles. In the old days when marriage takes place at a younger age, the Chinese believe that you achieve adult status when you get married. Hence, with this newfound status comes the privilege to distribute ang baos to those who still remain single or are younger.
The monetary gift included in ang baos is largely dependent on the relation between the giver and receiver. Immediate family members are typically given the more generous ang baos, followed by close relatives, friends, distant relatives then children of less familiar acquaintances.
The Chinese generally believe that even numbers represent that things will be well rounded; hence the amount in ang baos are usually in even numbers. Odd numbers are traditionally associated with monetary offerings for funeral wakes, and should be avoided for joyous occasions such as Lunar New Year, wedding banquets and babies’ full month celebrations.
Dollar notes used in ang baos should also be fresh banknotes as it symbolises the new beginning and new wealth in the New Year. The Cantonese, in particular, believe that giving used notes signifies the receiver is unimportant and that he or she would be forgotten.
Across all dialect groups of the Chinese, parents are no longer required to give ang baos to their children who are married. Instead, these children are expected to give ang baos to their parents to thank them for the years spent on raising them and to wish them longevity.
A Melting Pot of Traditions
As a Hokkien raised by a strict Cantonese grandmother, I would (and still do) scoff at ang baos containing $4 because I was taught that it is an inauspicious number. However, being married to a Teochew man, my mother-in-law has an annual habit of giving $4 ang baos to all the children in the family. Her reasoning behind it is that ‘4′ is a good number for Teochews as it represents that everything will go smoothly (事事顺利, 事事如意) for the receiver. Traditional Teochews apparently also like to hold their weddings in April – the fourth month in a year – for the same reason.It is for these same reasons that many Singaporeans have created their own practices regarding ang bao gifting. Being a country with many cultures, it is not uncommon to have marriages between two different dialect groups, leading to traditional practices being modified or ignored.
Firstly, peers do not commonly gift each other ang baos for the Lunar New Year even if one is married. Our society’s westernised behaviour views all peers as equals regardless of marital status, instead of married individuals being of a higher seniority.
Many parents also continue to give their married children ang baos as family units are considerably smaller compared to several generations ago. With the perpetual rise in living costs, they feel that their festive tokens would be of aid in helping their children cope with the financial commitments of having their own family.
Young families who no longer subscribe to their parents’ beliefs are also giving out ang baos containing ‘inauspicious numbers’ that would have been disapproved of a few decades ago. A quick survey on theAsianparent Facebook page showed that our readers typically give out ang baos with $2 to $10 to children, with a large majority handing out $4 or $6. While the number ‘4′ was avoided by many of our parents due to its similarity to the word ‘death’ in many dialects, the younger generation thinks of it as just a number and holds no taboo towards it.
Subjected to Economy Situation
During good economy, it was common to receive ang baos with a minimum of $6, while the years with economic recession saw ang baos reduced to just $2 each. It was a common amount and there was no judgment as most were suffering the same effects from the economic downturn.
On a similar note, it does not matter how much you give in your ang baos as long as it is what you can afford financially. True family and friends are more interested in getting together to celebrate the new lunar year than with how much is given to them in each ang bao. As long as you gift each ang bao with sincere blessings and a joyous heart, the monetary factor is just an added bonus.
Have a great Rabbit Year ahead!
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